Thursday, January 8, 2015

Mommahood

My sweet husband blessed me with an amazing devotional this year for Christmas-Out of the Spin Cycle by Jen Haymaker. Sound familiar? That's because I wrote about how wonderful her book Seven was here. I've only read two of the devotions so far, but Jesus has already used her words to strike truth in my heart. Love when that happens!

She opens the book with an amazing word for all mommas. She speaks to the momma who has one baby and the momma who has a whole litter. She calls to the momma who breastfeeds and the momma who rocks out the formula. She shouts to the momma who stays at home and the momma who runs the company. She talks to us all. Without further adieu, "a (fairly lame) ode to motherhood". . .


By: Jen Hatmaker

An ode to the marvelous woman called “Mother” 
Though not one of us is exactly like another. 
From the second we’re born to the minute we die 
Our preferences are as limitless as stars in the sky.

We might have been perfectly gracious before 
But childbirth entered us in the Mommy War. 
Rather than letting everyone else be 
We criticize parenting that isn’t exactly like . . . me.

So once and for all let me put this to rest 
None of us owns the title of “best.” 
Natural childbirth does not make you a hippy 
Epidurals are not just for women who want to feel trippy.

In a bathtub with a doula or in a hospital bed 
We all got a baby with limbs and a head. 
Nursing is great if nothing goes wrong 
But some nipples turn inward and refuse to play along.

This is a choice for each mom–it’s her route 
So it’s just A + B and everyone else can C their way out. 
Schedules and timers do not make you cruel 
Feeding on demand does not make you a fool.

In the nursery with a monitor or in the family bed 
Every chick gets to pick where her baby lays his head. 
If I see one more mom roll her eyes at “organic . . .” 
“Partially hydrogenated” throws some of us into panic.

But neither judge Sonic burgers and fries 
Some of us just want to enjoy food before we die. 
Preschool, home school, public, or Montessori 
Listen, my friends, and I’ll tell you a story:

Two moms differed on favorite school trends 
Their kids turned out pretty much the same. The end. 
If a girl gets the title of “mom” accidentally 
The worst thing we can do is treat her judgmentally.

How about some love, some help, some advice? 
She needs our love and we shouldn’t think twice. 
Discipline through various methods will prevail 
Look, we’re all just trying to keep our kids out of jail.

These things are just preferences, not right or wrong 
What matters more is teaching our kids to get along– 
To love and to share, to speak gently and kind, 
To obey so that mom won’t go out of her mind.

Showing them Jesus is our common ground 
Teaching them how he can always be found. 
He’s present in public school and Waldorf (so trendy) 
He’s over at Whole Foods but also at Wendy’s.

Jesus never cared about these sorts of things 
It’s our hearts that he wants and the worship we bring. 
It’s time for us moms to declare a truce 
Regardless if we buy Capri Sun or 100 percent juice.

My way is not your way, and your way isn’t mine 
But both of our kids will turn out just fine. 
Rather than judging and looking down our noses 
Let’s enjoy the common ground motherhood poses.

As believers, we all love the same good Lord 
We all have children who tell us “I’m bored.” 
We all need more sleep than these tiny five hours 
Most of us struggle to find time for a shower.

We haven’t been to the bathroom alone in an age 
Our mothers have all told us, “Relax, this is just a stage.” 
We all love our babies so much we could die 
We’d take a bullet for each one without batting an eye.

Though we are different, we’re in the same tribe 
Motherhood requires a similar vibe– 
Love and affection, sacrifice and grace 
Laughter, which keeps the whole mechanism in place.

Though different, by the grace of God, I suspect: 
ALL our children will rise up and call us ... collect.

She looks well to how things go in her household. ... Her children rise up and call her blessed. Proverbs 31:27—28 AMP

No matter what type of momma you are, God chose YOU to parent your child for a purpose and you are doing an AMAZING job!

1 comment:

  1. Thanks for this recommendation. Just added this book to my Kindle. All mamas need a pick me up.

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